Yes, I am a young tenderoni,but I been around enough to make the following statement "men always come back to a female that they were once with, if when they parted ways it was because of the men and not the female part". I shall explain and you give you several examples.
The beginning of the year I just up and decided to cut all the dudes off. I hand a small handful of dudes that were around for no reason. They were around for a chill buddy, fuck buddy, talk to buddy, married man, etc. Out of all the dudes I didn't want to settle down in a relationship with them. I then told myself "How can I expect and want a good man if I am dogging out the current ones, and holding onto men that I don't need." I told myself that I need to let go of them and that baggage,and I did just that. Many would call asking me out to dinner, some would call to "chill" which always led to us having adult recreational activities, and some would text the infamous line "so you don't fuck me no more". I can honestly say that I didn't engage/ entertain any of those things. I felt good over the decision I made and that I was sticking to my choice. I began to feel less stress out, closer to God, and I also found out what's most important to me.
It hit me yesterday that over the past 2 weeks the ones that I cut off plus some older ones have resurface. Early this week I met a nice man that is 8 yrs older than me. Yes, his age is a concern of mine however he is a gentleman and I will give him enough rope to hang himself and when he does he will be gone like the rest of the dudes in my past. I had a heavy heart yesterday while driving home; I was tired, my phone was ringing either a phone call or a text coming in, and ready to go off on any dude that said the wrong thing. With 6 months off from talking to these dudes they are still up to no good, but trying harder than ever for a second chance and attempt a realtionship again. I realized that the devil was in heavy works and I told myself I am not going to let him win
With my time off from these dudes I had alot more free time, less stress, and had a peace of mind.i have been able to read books, start my MBA, give back to the unfortunate, and get a promotion I am still shock that I haven't had sex in 6 months; I am really shock as I type this. If you are not postivite, getting money (legal job), god fearing with dreams and goal, etc you will not be giving the time of day from me.
So to Dominique, Chris, Donnie, Mike P, Hank, Carl, Demetrious, Phillip, and Vernon...... You may have resurfaced but I'm leaving you in the past. So take care and be blessed.
The beginning of the year I just up and decided to cut all the dudes off. I hand a small handful of dudes that were around for no reason. They were around for a chill buddy, fuck buddy, talk to buddy, married man, etc. Out of all the dudes I didn't want to settle down in a relationship with them. I then told myself "How can I expect and want a good man if I am dogging out the current ones, and holding onto men that I don't need." I told myself that I need to let go of them and that baggage,and I did just that. Many would call asking me out to dinner, some would call to "chill" which always led to us having adult recreational activities, and some would text the infamous line "so you don't fuck me no more". I can honestly say that I didn't engage/ entertain any of those things. I felt good over the decision I made and that I was sticking to my choice. I began to feel less stress out, closer to God, and I also found out what's most important to me.
It hit me yesterday that over the past 2 weeks the ones that I cut off plus some older ones have resurface. Early this week I met a nice man that is 8 yrs older than me. Yes, his age is a concern of mine however he is a gentleman and I will give him enough rope to hang himself and when he does he will be gone like the rest of the dudes in my past. I had a heavy heart yesterday while driving home; I was tired, my phone was ringing either a phone call or a text coming in, and ready to go off on any dude that said the wrong thing. With 6 months off from talking to these dudes they are still up to no good, but trying harder than ever for a second chance and attempt a realtionship again. I realized that the devil was in heavy works and I told myself I am not going to let him win
With my time off from these dudes I had alot more free time, less stress, and had a peace of mind.i have been able to read books, start my MBA, give back to the unfortunate, and get a promotion I am still shock that I haven't had sex in 6 months; I am really shock as I type this. If you are not postivite, getting money (legal job), god fearing with dreams and goal, etc you will not be giving the time of day from me.
So to Dominique, Chris, Donnie, Mike P, Hank, Carl, Demetrious, Phillip, and Vernon...... You may have resurfaced but I'm leaving you in the past. So take care and be blessed.
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